Of false friends and traitors ...
Apr. 1st, 2008 07:53 am![[personal profile]](https://www.dreamwidth.org/img/silk/identity/user.png){kind=small}
scottishlassAnyone who knows me will attest to the fact that one thing I cannot abide and tolerate in friendship is the fact of breaking trust and thus treason. I can forgive (NOT forget) quite a lot of things but when it comes to breaking my trust in ppl, then I can be really adamant.
Imagine this ... there is a message board that was famous for its sofa-feeling. Everyone was part of a big happy family and we also knew each other off-line. Then the admin and owner of said board had to go off-line as she moved houses and the new home was so far out there that she needed to find a new internet provider who actually could provide her with internet access. Anyway, several co-admins and super-mods on that board got fed up with her being off-line all the while and thought it would be much cooler to boot her out of the forum. They wanted the power and the glory and while ppl praised them for their hard work on the board, secretly they were not only plotting a coup, they also said terrible things about a number of users behind their backs in the admin/mod area and pretended to be best friends with them on the board as well as in real life.
These mods and admins put the owner to the test, either she hand over the forum or they would leave with the utmost damage possible. When the owner said, if you are unsatisfied with the situation let's TEMPORARILY close the forum until I'm online again and then we will sort everything out. Well they didn't want that and just posted a goodbye message in the public area and introduced a shiny new forum to a select few idiots who believe every word they say.
Now, these things happen all the time and I couldn't care less for but for this. A week before this all happened, one of those traitors (and backstabbers) had the chuzpe to sit here in my living room drinking coffee and LYING right to my face. Well she didn't talk bad about me behind my back but about His Hubbiness™ still I think this is a no-go in my book. She already knew that she would move on to the new forum as a super-mod but still tried to feel me out how I'd feel about it and what Olly would say, at the same time having written bad things about Olly and what she really thinks about him. She was a friend and I would have never thought she would do something so nasty.
Now what really makes me mad is the fact they are still using their old accounts to invite ppl from our forum over to their new one, slowly bleeding our forum and they are still spreading their half-assed lies of how they got totally misused by the owner of the old forum and stuff.
On the night of the blow-up when they tried to leave the forum with a bang, spreading their lies, I was on-line because of Chica's illness and another user and me we investigated almost all posts to see if they had given any indication (they had given plenty) and without even reading all their (now deleted) postings in the mod/admin area, we could piece together what was going on and calling them upon it. We got branded as witch hunters and liars and even one of my friends (who I later found out she badmouthed my hubby) lied right into my face and told me there is no new forum. Well, some of you know that when I see a spade I call it a spade and posted all my suspicions and facts and was immediately banned with my IP addy from their new board as well as they tried to delete lots of messages they had posted on which I based my facts on until they were banned from the message board themselves.
Then last week, when Chica died, out of the blue His Hubbiness™ received a very heart-warming mail from one of the instigators (someone I didn't like from the get-go anyway) and she offered to post a nice thread with Chica pics on her new forum ... I was against it because really why should she care when all she had done was bad-mouthing hubby, me and our dogs? But you know what? His Hubbiness™ felt like okay, this is a nice thing to do, let by-gones be by-gones and he gave them permission. He feels like giving them another chance ... WTF?!
Sometimes I really ask myself where all that blue-eyed-ness and naivety comes from.
Sorry for the long rant but I needed to get this off my chest.
Of course, they didn't offer that out of kindness ... now they demand to be allowed back onto the forum to see if we are not bad-mouthing them (we don't) and hubby is all for allowing them to return (he has been made mod on the old forum btw - they asked me as well but I declined as I'm far too straight spoken to become a diplomatic mod). Anyway, I knew they wouldn't make that offer out of kindness ... If I was him, I would give them the finger, temporarily close down PNs (which their disciples use to ask users on the forum to come join their new forum and leave the old one) and kick anyone out who will complain.
I'm so mad again right now. Most of the coup d'etat happened in the beginning of March but now it all boils up again and I really REALLY would love to give a piece of my mind to those traitorous assholes. And they are using his hubby's naivety to get their foot into the forum again. I told both his hubby and the owner of the forum that if these assholes are allowed back in I will raise a stink and publicly ask to be deleted from the forum. My on-line time is precous and I really don't want to read any postings by those treacherous bitches.
Sorry for the long rant but I needed to get this off my chest.
Imagine this ... there is a message board that was famous for its sofa-feeling. Everyone was part of a big happy family and we also knew each other off-line. Then the admin and owner of said board had to go off-line as she moved houses and the new home was so far out there that she needed to find a new internet provider who actually could provide her with internet access. Anyway, several co-admins and super-mods on that board got fed up with her being off-line all the while and thought it would be much cooler to boot her out of the forum. They wanted the power and the glory and while ppl praised them for their hard work on the board, secretly they were not only plotting a coup, they also said terrible things about a number of users behind their backs in the admin/mod area and pretended to be best friends with them on the board as well as in real life.
These mods and admins put the owner to the test, either she hand over the forum or they would leave with the utmost damage possible. When the owner said, if you are unsatisfied with the situation let's TEMPORARILY close the forum until I'm online again and then we will sort everything out. Well they didn't want that and just posted a goodbye message in the public area and introduced a shiny new forum to a select few idiots who believe every word they say.
Now, these things happen all the time and I couldn't care less for but for this. A week before this all happened, one of those traitors (and backstabbers) had the chuzpe to sit here in my living room drinking coffee and LYING right to my face. Well she didn't talk bad about me behind my back but about His Hubbiness™ still I think this is a no-go in my book. She already knew that she would move on to the new forum as a super-mod but still tried to feel me out how I'd feel about it and what Olly would say, at the same time having written bad things about Olly and what she really thinks about him. She was a friend and I would have never thought she would do something so nasty.
Now what really makes me mad is the fact they are still using their old accounts to invite ppl from our forum over to their new one, slowly bleeding our forum and they are still spreading their half-assed lies of how they got totally misused by the owner of the old forum and stuff.
On the night of the blow-up when they tried to leave the forum with a bang, spreading their lies, I was on-line because of Chica's illness and another user and me we investigated almost all posts to see if they had given any indication (they had given plenty) and without even reading all their (now deleted) postings in the mod/admin area, we could piece together what was going on and calling them upon it. We got branded as witch hunters and liars and even one of my friends (who I later found out she badmouthed my hubby) lied right into my face and told me there is no new forum. Well, some of you know that when I see a spade I call it a spade and posted all my suspicions and facts and was immediately banned with my IP addy from their new board as well as they tried to delete lots of messages they had posted on which I based my facts on until they were banned from the message board themselves.
Then last week, when Chica died, out of the blue His Hubbiness™ received a very heart-warming mail from one of the instigators (someone I didn't like from the get-go anyway) and she offered to post a nice thread with Chica pics on her new forum ... I was against it because really why should she care when all she had done was bad-mouthing hubby, me and our dogs? But you know what? His Hubbiness™ felt like okay, this is a nice thing to do, let by-gones be by-gones and he gave them permission. He feels like giving them another chance ... WTF?!
Sometimes I really ask myself where all that blue-eyed-ness and naivety comes from.
Sorry for the long rant but I needed to get this off my chest.
Of course, they didn't offer that out of kindness ... now they demand to be allowed back onto the forum to see if we are not bad-mouthing them (we don't) and hubby is all for allowing them to return (he has been made mod on the old forum btw - they asked me as well but I declined as I'm far too straight spoken to become a diplomatic mod). Anyway, I knew they wouldn't make that offer out of kindness ... If I was him, I would give them the finger, temporarily close down PNs (which their disciples use to ask users on the forum to come join their new forum and leave the old one) and kick anyone out who will complain.
I'm so mad again right now. Most of the coup d'etat happened in the beginning of March but now it all boils up again and I really REALLY would love to give a piece of my mind to those traitorous assholes. And they are using his hubby's naivety to get their foot into the forum again. I told both his hubby and the owner of the forum that if these assholes are allowed back in I will raise a stink and publicly ask to be deleted from the forum. My on-line time is precous and I really don't want to read any postings by those treacherous bitches.
Sorry for the long rant but I needed to get this off my chest.
